The ability to trust other people removes great obstacles and distances between them, which in turn leads to harmonious relations in any area of our lives.
But how do you learn to trust within reasonable limits? After all, distrust is a protective reaction of the body, but often it starts to control a person and invariably leads to loneliness and social isolation.
How do you learn to trust another person?
To begin with, let us understand what lies at the heart of mistrust of other people. The most common and obvious reason is negative experiences. Past resentments, failures force us to take a biased position about other people. Every time we decide whether or not to trust a person, our negative experiences interfere with us. The main thing here is to understand and accept that one particular individual, not the whole of humanity, has deceived your trust.
More often remember the positive moments in your life, when a person not only justified your trust, but also anticipated all the bold expectations. Probably in your life were, are, friends, colleagues, relatives, whom you could trust infinitely. Remembering such people more and more often, you will see for yourself the relativity of any assessment and gradually begin to understand that not all villains and traitors.
Do not think about people stereotypically. They should always be given a chance to show their positive qualities. Do not think that, for example, all men are cheating and all employers are soulless slave owners. Perhaps a man who is unable to keep other people’s secrets will be a loyal employee to whom you can trust with a calm soul any complicated case, or he will prove himself as a great strategist, and your loved one or friend will be a compassionate and generous man.
Trust is born in a dialogue, but it often happens that the person deceives your trust himself without understanding. It is not necessary to accuse him at once in all mortal sins, speak to him. Probably, it unconsciously has given out the information which you would like to share only with it, or it will appear, you have not informed to it that the information is confidential. Try to be more flexible and loyal to people.
And most importantly, you must learn to understand your feelings, manage them and perceive people as they really are, and be able to forgive mistakes to yourself and others.